I feel I'm in the midst of an extended transitional phase. Transitional because I've consistently found myself evaluating my personal choices and professional options. Extended because I've been riding this wave for almost two years now. Let's be honest, no one deliberately chooses to stay on a surfboard for this long.
Looking back, I've been able to balance myself through the motions. I've made a number of moves and changes which have placed me closer to where I want to be. Am I there yet? Not exactly. Is anyone ever? I don't think so.
Stay with me here.
What I mean is, people don't just get to a point in life and say, "This is it. This is exactly where I'm supposed to be, I have everything I’ve ever wanted and I’m completely satisfied." No. We're ever-changing and ever-evolving beings.
Quoting the infamous Benny Franklin here,
I say we should all add ‘change’ into the mix. In my 26 years of life, I’ve never met an individual who’s managed to avoid change and perpetuate his existence on an immutable plateau of comfort.
Don’t get me wrong, we do have the opportunity to reach a certain level of stability where we feel we’re in the “right place.” I’ve witnessed it and we should all strive towards getting there. But feeling as if we’re stuck or not on track doesn’t mean we’re in a bad spot either; things not going exactly as planned doesn't directly translate to “Life sucks, get outta here.” This brings me back to being on, and enduring, a transitional period.
A transitional phase, a stepping stone, a long stride in the right direction, or however you wish to call it, can actually be a blessing in disguise. Take it from an expert. I might not be at that 'stable, right place' yet, but I’m taking all the necessary steps to get me there.
If you also feel you’ve been riding this wave for way too long, here’s a few things you could do to better prepare yourself for when the right opportunities come your way:
- Have a sit down with yourself and do a periodic self-assessment check. I’ve already outlined one for you here.
- Learn as much as you can from your current state. Sometimes we focus so much on the negative we fail to see the number of things we could learn from our current situation; lessons which will grow us and which we could further take and apply to future opportunities.
- Plan your future, follow up, and be flexible. Organize yourself, make lists, set deadlines, tackle tasks, and do everything in your power to continue to move you forward. Knock on doors, leave no stone unturned, and when a door closes–don’t wallow in it–brush it off and find the next one which will open.
- Don’t be discouraged and keep working hard towards your end goal. If you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, it doesn’t mean it isn’t there. It might be further down the road or right behind an obstacle you’re very close to overcoming. But please, whatever you do, don’t give up.
Writing this particular post has been quite liberating and healing for myself, and if anything within it has resonated with you, feel free to share - I'd love to hear your thoughts! As per usual, I’ve jotted down my outfit deets at the bottom of this post. ♡
** All pieces are dated items from my closet, I've linked similar items below for you to replicate this look.
Top: Forever 21 (similar here, here, and here)
Dress: Forever 21 (similar here and here)
Trench: Old Navy (similar here)
Bag: Angela Roi
Necklace: Forever 21 (similar here, here, and here)
Sunnies: Good question! Lolz. (similar here)